Young Adulthood: Its Struggles And Possible Soultions 🫠 Part 2

Adulthood is said to be a difficult transition for teenagers and young adults. It can be a very daunting time because there is no hand book or manual to follow, you just have to wing it 🤷🏽‍♀️. It can also be very lonely and alienating and you often feel like you’re the only one experiencing it but you aren’t. There are lots of teens and young adults experiencing same.

That is why here on FreedomTalk Blog, I am dedicated to writing posts on pressing issues that concern teenagers and young adults. This is a medium to share experiences and find possible solution’s for them.

On part 2 of the Young adulthood and its struggles series, Uwem tells us his struggles with social media, peer pressure and how he overcame them.

UWEM

HOW HAS SOCIAL MEDIA CAUSED A PROBLEM FOR YOU AS A YOUNG ADULT?

”Well it started slowly, I didn’t even notice it. It went from admiring influencers to being depressed and wondering why my life is not like theirs. You see a lot of young guys and girls driving the latest cars, going to expensive restaurants, going on nice trips with their friends or partners and you begin to ask your self, ’where them de see this money?!’

You ask yourself why you aren’t living that kind of life and what you’re doing wrong and how you can improve.

The thing is, if you’re someone that is easily influenced, you might end up doing illegal things like fraud or prostitution. All these just to have the ‘Lagos big girl or guy lifestyle’”.

IT CAN BE REALLY HARD TO BE ON SOCIAL MEDIA SOMETIMES ESPECIALLY ON INSTAGRAM.

“ I too struggled with peer pressure on instagram but I realized that the illegal means in which a lot of them acquired their riches, wasn’t worth me getting arrested and tarnishing my parents image for. I also learned to be content with myself and my life”.

SO WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO YOUTHS THAT ARE STRUGGLING WITH PEER PRESSURE FROM SOCIAL MEDIA?

“First things first, social media media isn’t real life, come to terms with that. Most people are living a fake life. Its all for show. If someone is doing too much, I begin to be suspicious, because ahh, where you de see this money?!😂😂

It is very important to note that life is a gradual process and you should work hard to get the life you want although it won’t be easy, whether its school, a job or side hustle, you will get there.

You see a 21yr old buying a car for his girlfriend, no work, nothing, Where is he getting the money from? 😂😂😂. No allow make unnecessary things pressure you oo.

Learn to be patient and ignore all these, Gods time is the best.”

Next up is Melody.

MELODY

HOW HAVE YOU BEEN DEALING WITH ADULTHOOD SO FAR? WHAT ARE YOUR STRUGGLES ?

“Adulthood comes with its issues and it affects people differently. In my case, I struggle with emotions, friendships and the whole fear of being in charge of my life.”

HOW HAVE YOU BEEN DEALING WITH THE VARIOUS EMOTIONS YOU EXPERIENCE ?

“They be all over the place. Its a recurrent thing. Coupled with having your period every month, you experience new pre and post-menstrual symptoms, and you are left with just a week out of the month to feel normal.”

SO HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THAT?

“What really works for me is to just pretend. Yunno, like Rihanna said. Pretend because people want to see you sad and frayed and you can’t let
them. Be sad and frayed in your house,
go out and be boss.”

FRIENDSHIPS, IS IT REALLY THAT HARD IN ADULTHOOD?

“For me I would say that its hard to have genuine friends as you grow up. It seems like friendships when you were little were easier and less fake. I mostly have surface friendships now. (Hey this boy is cute, OMG this top is fine 😍lol heehee) not serious friendships anymore. I’m my own friend. Its best to just do you sha. This is my opinion and experience. Its important to use your discretion. Now I have many acquaintances, few friends.”

WHAT ARE YOUR FEARS AS A YOUNG ADULT?

I often struggle with the fear of failure, at 22 you feel like you’ve already failed at life bro! No be so oo😭😭😭. And let’s not forget about money. You think about money all the time. You think about if you’re making a lot and how to make more and save too. Its a wild rollercoaster. What makes me feel better is searching up ’Black Girl Motivation on Pinterest’, ”.

We’ve come to the end of the second series of Young Adulthood and its Struggles. I hope you’ve learned a thing or two from Melody and Uwem🤗. See you next time on the Young Adulthood and Its Struggles series❤️.

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Do you relate to any of the struggles of Uwem and Melody? I personally struggled with instagram pressure for a while and what had really helped me is to limit my time on the app and just do me.

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